Art as Meditation

When I try to sit still and meditate, time goes very slowly. There are gaps in my mind chatter, but they never last very long. My busy brain resists the meditation every step of the way.  But I have noticed that when I am totally immersed in something, my mind relaxes, the brain chatter ceases…

Why it can be hard to stay happy and positive? 

There’s a phrase in computer technology that says: ‘Garbage in. Garbage out,’ meaning that if you feed a computer incorrect information, the resulting output will be incorrect also. The brain does a similar thing. Your thoughts and emotions are a result of the information and experiences you have inputted into your brain over time. If you…

How can I be the change?

“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” ― Mahatma Gandhi             This is one of the most inspiring quotes I know. But it’s also a huge challenge. How can I be the change I want to see, when the world’s problems seem so overwhelming and I…

10 Alternatives to Meditation

Including meditation practice as part of a daily routine is a great idea, but it’s not always easy. I’m a very active person, both in body and mind, and sitting still and quiet is really hard for me to do. So I’ve been looking around for other activities that can have the benefits of meditation

End of winter mood boosters

I’ve done all the things I look forward to about winter. I’ve sat by a roaring fire, enjoyed roast dinners, casseroles and hot chocolate with whipped cream. I’ve lit candles and turned on the fairy lights. I’ve snuggled under a throw with a good book. I’ve had my long winter rest and I’m ready for…

Intrinsic Rewards

We are often motivated by extrinsic rewards: praise, money, material rewards and the avoidance of judgement. Life can be sweeter when we do things just because they make us feel happy and fulfilled. Sometimes we need to do a bit of detective work to discover the activities which make us feel this way.

Rethinking Relationships

It’s not that I’m a dictator, expecting everyone to jump to attention when I bark an order, but, I’ve noticed that problems within my relationships usually occur when people do not behave in the way I expect them to. If I ask someone to do something and they don’t, I sometimes get upset, I might…

Happiness is a choice

There are usually two things that make us unhappy: Thinking about the past – and either feeling guilty, regretful or negative about it in some way, or longing to be back in happier or simpler times. Thinking about the future – and either worrying that things will go wrong or looking to it as an escape…

The Golden Rule

Most people know a version of the Golden Rule which appears in some form in nearly all religions. The idea is that we should love our neighbours as ourselves and do to others as we would wish them to do to us. I’ve always thought that this is a lesson in being kind to others…