Shame, anxiety and the healing power of self-acceptance.

We all feel the hot rush of shame from time to time. But when these thoughts keep recurring they lead to anxiety and prevent us from living our best lives. Most of us are familiar with feelings of shame: that flush of discomfort that makes us want to hide away and never face the world again.…

Tuning out the anxious mind

Mind Workings Introduction Changing the way you think can be the biggest factor in changing your life. The way you think affects the way you feel, which affects the way you act, which affects every aspect of your life for better or worse. So before moving on to more practical activities to reduce stress and…

Why it can be hard to stay happy and positive? 

There’s a phrase in computer technology that says: ‘Garbage in. Garbage out,’ meaning that if you feed a computer incorrect information, the resulting output will be incorrect also. The brain does a similar thing. Your thoughts and emotions are a result of the information and experiences you have inputted into your brain over time. If you…

Happiness is a choice

There are usually two things that make us unhappy: Thinking about the past – and either feeling guilty, regretful or negative about it in some way, or longing to be back in happier or simpler times. Thinking about the future – and either worrying that things will go wrong or looking to it as an escape…

The Golden Rule

Most people know a version of the Golden Rule which appears in some form in nearly all religions. The idea is that we should love our neighbours as ourselves and do to others as we would wish them to do to us. I’ve always thought that this is a lesson in being kind to others…

Recuperation Rituals

We need down time, dark time, when the moon shadows are long. We need a break from the stimulation of the everyday world, the blasting noise and smells and light.  We cannot be constantly taking in new information without taking the time to learn, integrate and consolidate new ideas. We cannot be constantly doing and…

Quieten the Monkey Mind

The Monkey Mind There’s a voice in your head — call it the ego, the mind, the editor, resistance, the left brain, monkey mind — whatever you like. It’s constantly chattering away telling you all the things that are wrong with your life and all the things that could go wrong in the future. But…

Five tips to beat the winter blues

At this time of year many of us experience lethargy and low spirits. But there is no need to suffer the winter blues. These tips can help put the light back into life and the spring back into your step. 1 Get outside for an hour every day When it’s cold, you don’t necessarily want to spend much time…